I’m not going to BS you here [1st step to stopping TOXIC Positivity lol j/k] have you ever been around someone who tells you to see the bright side of things, to turn negative into a positive or to see it from a different lens. Yes.. well i have and I have been that person However we must reduce the toxic positivity we tell our self. Now I am not saying to not see the upside of things however I am saying we are actually doing ourselves a dis-services when we carry on with fake positivity . So let’s chat about it 3 reason you should STOP asserting fake positivity in your life
I’m not going to BS you here [1st step to stopping TOXIC Positivity lol j/k] have you ever been around someone who tells you to see the bright side of things, to turn negative into a positive or to see it from a different lens. Yes.. well i have and I have been that person However we must reduce the toxic positivity we tell our self. Now I am not saying to not see the upside of things however I am saying we are actually doing ourselves a dis-services when we carry on with fake positivity . So let’s chat about it 3 reason you should STOP asserting fake positivity in your life
- Process emotions: Some use fake positive as a way to not process what has happened or happening. So you tell yourself positive things about a bad situation to NOT process a feeling. Well the disservice is that the emotion may not come out now while you’re being so positive about it but it will seep out later when something triggers you. POINT: Process the emotion now and experience real positively later
- Impress others: No not in the fancy hey look at what you have type of way but in the you got it all together because you are so positive. You PRETEND to be positive so others believe you have it together when little do you know they don’t have it together. So there you are with {insert whoever here} talking all this positivity when both of you may not even feel that way, possibly feeling crappy about yourself as you commune with each other about how everything is so positive while you life is in shambles/ POINT: Instead of faking positive express how you really feel in a moment and move on.
- Trapped: When you are always positive and people see you for that you are now TRAPPED in being the sunshine and light for others (which is not a bad place to be) but when you are viewed as always positive people now won’t allow you to have a bad day. There you are wanting to cry, scream or even just stay quiet but because you have been this fake positive person you cannot be your authentic with your authentic emotions because people won’t expect that from you and you know that so you continue with the fake positivity. POINT: Give a balanced perception of you to others and don’t get trapped in one aspect of yourself. Having a full range of emotions is normal but faking positivity not so much.
There are more reasons to stop with the #PositiveVibes about everything. The fact is positive vibes are not every day [despite what you see on Instagram]. Some days are just meh, some days I don’t wanna get out of bed, some days are serene. There is a range of emotion and positivity just boxes you in to now have a own day when in real life there will be down days and that’s okay.
Now it’s your turn how you feel about fake positivity? Do you think being too positive can be toxic?
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